You’ve Done A Good Job In Raising Them, But Will Their Faith Survive While On Their Own As An Adult?
You have raised your children to have a relationship with God, and they have learned their scripture. You have taught them how to live a Christian lifestyle, and now it’s time for them to leave the nest. While you are sad to see them go, you secretly wonder if they will be fine on their own.
My parents fondly laugh when I point out that I’m an adult, and they don’t have to worry about me, anymore. They inform me that I will always be their child, and being concerned about your kids never changes- no matter how old they are.
It was their hope, as is mine, that they had taught me enough to survive and flourish on my own as an adult. Through the years, they have always been there and shared their wisdom with me. However, there has been a strong emphasis to be independent- to try to solve things on my own. I can’t complain, though. They have raised me to be a strong, fully capable individual.
So How Do You Prepare Them For The Real World? What If They Are Not Ready?
It’s difficult to let go, and in answering this question, you need to discern whether it is you that is not willing to let go or it is a maturity level with your child. You can raise your children and equip them with everything necessary for success. However, people mature at different rates and your child may not be ready for independence just yet.
The fact that they aren’t ready yet is fine as long as you are okay with it. However, you need to make sure that they are eventually able to transition into the real world and not forever remain at home. Otherwise, it’s just enabling.
Helen Murray discusses how to prepare your child to transition smoothly into the secular (adult) world while maintaining their faith. She will discuss how to equip them to avoid common pitfalls and temptations as they become more self-reliant and self-governing.
And when you’ve equipped them the best you can, and done all else, we will teach you how to pray for them so that they make the best choices possible. We will teach you how to pray protection over them, and how to make sure that they make godly choices.
But in the end, it truly is their life, and they need to make their own mistakes- that’s how we grow. Yet no matter how old they get, they will always need their parents.
This feature and more in our next issue of Faith Filled Family Magazine coming out on March 26, 2019!