“I want it, NOW!” How many parents have heard that emphatic statement over the years? From the temper-tantrum phase as toddlers, to the sulky phase of being a teen, children come into constant conflict with parents over the concept of self-control and delayed gratification. Yet these are necessary characteristics to implant into your children, because without them, we see adults battling all sorts of strongholds in their lives, and many go into debt because of poor spending habits.
Teaching your children self-control is important- no matter what age they are. Unfortunately, we live in a world of instant gratification, so this concept is becoming increasingly more challenging. Even as adults, we become impatient if we are subjected to “waiting” in any form, and this has become really bad because in our hurry to get from “point a” to “point b”, we’ve lost our ability to relax and enjoy life. We are in such a hurry, that we fail to see the beauty in the day that God has created. I think oftentimes we miss out- on opportunities God has, on seeing the beauty around us, at relationships that could develop, etc. that we prevalent years ago before our instant society evolved.
So what does the ability to exercise self-control mean for the next generation?
It means that if we don’t teach our children delayed gratification and self-control, they will grow up to be very undisciplined in their adulthood. They may face the following challenges:
- A sense of entitlement instead of the value of hard-work.
- If things don’t happen fast enough, they will become easily discouraged.
- They will have a greater debt load because they don’t have the characteristics needed to manage money. Marriages will suffer under the crushing burden of debt, parents may be looking after their children financially, and increased poverty.
- Increased additions, and obesity- all of which need self-control.
- Moving from job to job (not being able to hold down a job).
In our next issue, John Lysaught will discuss how to teach your children the importance of self-control and delayed gratification at any age. He will also go into depth as to how this helps them flourish into responsible adults, setting them up for success in the future.
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