I Can’t Seem To Forgive And Forget… I’m So Angry! Help Me Move On.
We often think that we’ve let it go, only to have a flood of emotions overwhelm us and place us back to where we were in the first place. It’s hard to move on when you feel like you are constantly being bombarded with reminders of the offence either in your thoughts, or in you every day life.
Yet we are reminded continually that we are to love our enemies and pray for those that persecute us.
How Do I Do That? Especially When I’m Not Feeling It.
Anger hides our ability to have compassion or empathy for others. It places us in the self- how I was hurt- not why the person did this in the first place.
We mull over in our minds how malicious this person is… how deceitful, and how dishonest. I trusted them, and look what they did…
Do they even know what they did wrong? Most of the time people apologize when it’s brought to their attention and we discover that it was done innocently enough. There usually isn’t any malice attached- it was just a mistake. Yet we spend exorbitant amounts of energy consuming our thoughts of what they did. Why hold yourself in that type of bondage?
Release The Chains…
So how do you forgive those that are your enemies, those that don’t like you, or those that persecute you for one reason or another? What if it is malicious?
Let me ask you this: What if it has everything to do with you, but isn’t about you whatsoever?
Meaning, what? Sometimes people don’t like you not because of you, but they don’t like something about you. Being around you may convict them of something. Others will attack the Jesus in you and not know why they don’t specifically like you in the first place.
Sometimes you remind them of someone. Sometimes you portray something they want or have something they want for themselves. They become envious. Sometimes it’s just a personal flaw that gets uncovered every time they are around you.
So, if you knew the real reason, would you be more apt to forgive? What about pray?
You see, Jesus told us that it’s easy to love those who love you. But it’s hard to pray with sincerity to those that hate you. Yet Jesus had to do it, so it’s not impossible.
Helen Murray discusses how to pray for those that seek to do harm to us, and how to do it with a sincere heart. She will talk about releasing the chains of unforgiveness that have wrapped themselves around our heart, and see the best in people.
It is in seeing the best in others- seeing them how God sees them- that we can truly maintain our compassion, empathy, and freedom from others. If we only knew the truth, would that make a difference?
I think that it would.
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