“For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” Matthew 6:14-15
There are occasions where forgiving someone is easier said than done. This is especially true in the areas of abuse, neglect, abandonment, and issues concerning a violations of trust/safety in a relationship. At the core, we expect our relationships to make us feel secure, loved, and valued. When issues arise that are contradictory to this expectation, we feel either a sense of our boundaries being violated, or as if we were never good enough to begin with. Cases of neglect, abandonment and abuse leave its victims feeling as if they have little to no worth, because if the person truly cared about them, they would have either stuck around, or cared more. In all of these situations, needs are being neglected, and our fundamental systems of beliefs are gradually being eroded over time.
Yet, God tells us to forgive. How do you do that?
First of all, forgiveness does not absolve someone of what they have done. This is something that they will be answerable to God for, and God will deal with them. Forgiveness means that you let go of the pain and anger that it attached to the individual. You simply let it go because in the end, it will destroy you in some form.
Randy Williams will discuss how to forgive those that violate you as in the cases of abuse, neglect, abandonment, and other issues. He will walk you through the pain and bad memories, into freedom. He will also teach you how to rebuild trust with this person (if possible), and re-establishing a relationship in the context of a marriage situation.
The road to healing and wholeness may be long, but the results are worth it. God can turn any negative experience into His glory, and it is not His desire that you be bound by the past. He wants you to walk in the freedom of the present and future. He also wants you to forgive, because in forgiveness, you release the other person.
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Michelle Danko is the Editor-In-Chief for Faith Filled Family Magazine.
Satan's greatest assault has been on families as he tries to destroy God's original design for it. Our children are reaping the negative consequences of an errant belief system resulting in confusion and disillusionment. Michelle believes that we need to have a strong relationship with God, our first ministry is to our family, and that everything else flows from that.
Michelle has a passion for seeing families live victoriously in Christ, and she doesn't just write about a life with God, but she lives it as well.